The years keep accumulating. Every so often I run into this blog spot and get caught up on this paltry excuse for a running memoir that I started years ago. I read all my past entries (all five of them), and was shocked to see that the first two were written while Brian was still alive. I'm glad I made those entries because they provided me with a few more precious details about his visit here back in February of 2010. He was so appreciative and happy to be invited here, and I felt privileged that we were able to host him.
Looking back from this vantage, I have no doubt that he had a drug problem then, and that it was beating him pretty badly. I doubt that he used anything while he was here but there is no way to know. He may have brought some pills with him and taken them at strategic times. Or maybe he was trying to kick the habit and succeeded at getting clean for periods of time (especially when removed from his home environment), only to spiral back later. Perhaps it was years of that cycle repeating itself. Or perhaps he kept it going in a careful, minimal way in order to remain functional while indulging in his habit.
Maybe he never thought it would get so bad that one night the perfect storm would finally roll in and find him alone on a Friday night in an inadvertent overdose situation - his usual pills taken after a few forgotten drinks were consumed earlier that evening. Happy hour with colleagues or maybe a date with someone online. A tactical error that even someone as clever as Brian could make. Any of us could make. There are some rules that just cannot be broken, doesn't matter who you are. And then Brian found himself on a sinking ship too far from shore to swim in solo. And he drowned and died right there on his living room couch with nobody for company. Alone in his addiction, which long ago had ruined any chances he had of having a companion there with him in that moment, his time of greatest need. Someone to call 911 to show up with narcan, transport him, resuscitate him if necessary.
It's possible that had I not left for Europe, Brian might still be alive today. I always suspected that something was up with him, though never this and never this bad. But as the years pressed on I may have put it together. I was slightly disturbed in 2013 when I had to pick Brian up from the hospital after his leg surgery (what about his own friends? No girlfriend?). His apartment was sparse to say the least. Very plain furniture and virtually no personal effects, no clutter. He didn't need a girlfriend, his love came in pill form and he gave that his all. No need for building a life, memories, interests. Empty drawers, no decor, everything hollow and blank.
I should have said something. I should have done something. I should have confronted Brian and interrogated him and gotten the same "fuck you" I got from him all those years ago when mom asked me to talk to him about his attitude. Or the same "fuck you" he implied to me when I complained to him about not making the car payments to me that he promised to. I was mad when I heard those words, but I should have looked past that to understand what they really meant - maybe "I'm in trouble." Brian was in trouble, that's for sure.